tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post218448280497709923..comments2024-01-15T03:46:36.783-05:00Comments on Gains And Losses: Life Through Sharon's Eyes: Sizzling Summer Sunday and QuestionsSharonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09408463925646609263noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-83061130551069812422010-07-27T17:47:29.709-04:002010-07-27T17:47:29.709-04:00Interesting question... public or private, to tell...Interesting question... public or private, to tell or not to tell.<br /><br />Occasionally, I wish I was "anonymous". But then, it doesn't seem to matter in my case. My whole family knows about it, I even sent the link... and NO ONE, except my niece, reads it! At least not that they will admit. I even have to beg my husband to read a particular post if I want him to see it. <br /><br />How do I feel about that?? Insignificant. Boring. Uninteresting. Less than. Unimportant. Un-cared about...<br /><br />Maybe that is why I am always amazed that people read my blog, and leave comments.<br /><br />I pour out my heart, and the people who are family could care less (except for my niece)... while new friends I've made online respond with care and support and encouragement. Mind-blowing!!<br /><br />Gee... that didn't help you one bit. Sorry!<br /><br />One thing I decided from the start: I would not make myself feel better at someone else's expense... I would not rant and "vent" if it meant trashing someone. If I want to talk about something, I will at least leave off names or identifying info. That is not freedom to me, to vent and hurt others. That is cruel. You can't un-ring a bell. And once it's out there, it's out there for good.<br /><br />So, it depends on your needs and goals for your blog... if you need to vent, and it helps your journey, then definitely go anonymous.<br /><br />I try for emotional resolution BEFORE I post... I bend God's ear a LOT before posting. So I don't use it for that purpose.<br /><br />There is no right or wrong way...other than the basics of kindness and respect... treating others the way you would want to be treated.<br /><br />Sorry to be long-winded... you really got me thinking!<br /><br />Loretta<br />=^..^=Rettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10034267067410245582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-50955796067976741832010-07-26T16:27:25.951-04:002010-07-26T16:27:25.951-04:00Fist I am so sorry to hear about the passing of yo...Fist I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your good friend. <br /><br />I sometimes wish that my blog was a secret from family and friends. Having said that it is also a good way to stay connected to the ones who live far away. I would perhaps talk more about eating disorders and the affect my childhood played in creating mine if my parents didn't read my blog. I sometimes wish my husband and kids didn't share with certain people about the blog but I soon forget about it.<br /><br />Anyone who has known me for a few years or more has seen me lose weight, gain weight and lose it again so it is no secret that I have issues with food and my weight.<br /><br />What is interesting is that I get more comments and support from complete strangers on my blog than from family and friends. Rarely do family or friends leave me a comment, maybe they are reading and maybe not!<br /><br />I use to have a plug in for Word press that told me when a blogger had a new post but it made my home page load slow so I got rid of it. Now I just check blogs randomly and I try to post on other blogs when that person has left me a comment. I would like a better system too!Tamihttp://www.nutmegnotebook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-70332014835742742252010-07-26T11:16:02.713-04:002010-07-26T11:16:02.713-04:00Sharon, first want to say how sorry I am for the s...Sharon, first want to say how sorry I am for the sudden loss of your good friend.<br /><br />I read blogs a very old fashioned way, I'm afraid. JUst have them all in my bookmarks and check a couple times a day to see if there's anything new.<br /><br />As far as letting people know about my blog. There's only one person who I really don't want to know about my blog--my mother... and, I actually said to my sister at one point, I think you should stop reading my blog. That was because she does not want to eat healthily right now, and complained that I always talked about it. When we are together I avoid it like the plague, and I think she was absorbing everything I read in my blog and resenting it.<br /><br />But I feel pretty strongly about this. I feel like I can be as open and honest as I want to be while at the same time realizing that ANYONE IN THE WORLD could read my blog at any time. And being careful to be respectful of others when writing.debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967505760808535408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-55573364876938975302010-07-26T08:36:59.185-04:002010-07-26T08:36:59.185-04:00I just found your blog. I am so sory to read abou...I just found your blog. I am so sory to read about the passing of your friend, Jack. (I am fond of lighthouses too.) As to one of your questions, I have been pretty open about sharing my diet struggles, but have elected not to share my blog, primarily for the reason you mention. I think I'd start editing myself, and for purely selfish reasons, I need to do this for me and my health - so I am not sharing my blog with family and friends. I need to put myself first for a change. (Part of my problem is I've put everyone else first, and neglected myself in the process.) I don't want to undermine my efforts.Ann (-50 lbs in -60 lb challenge)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17156265221593608891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-77405652034102575172010-07-25T21:33:22.628-04:002010-07-25T21:33:22.628-04:00Hey Sharon!
I have the same number in both place...Hey Sharon! <br /><br />I have the same number in both places.<br />I haven't really told anyone about my blog, other than my husband and my mom who neither one know how to get to it..LOL <br />I read blog updates through the dashboard mostly, sometimes I do go and check certain ones. But then again I have days where I just read blogs and bounce from one blog to the next.. <br /><br />OK so I am no help at all!!! <br />Have a great night!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13169879201450414392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-87581128277314011662010-07-25T21:32:28.083-04:002010-07-25T21:32:28.083-04:00Re: reading blogs. I follow the blogs that I'...Re: reading blogs. I follow the blogs that I'd like to read. They show up on my Dashboard via the "Reader". <br /><br />If a blogger I'm following is in the habit of responding to comments by adding a comment of her own to her own post, I click the "subscribe by email" thing at the bottom of the comment. That means that subsequent COMMENTS show up in my email--but not subsequent posts.<br /><br />I do have my blog set up so that all comments made by others on my posts get forwarded to my email. I often respond to comments by replying to that comment as tho it were an email. I often wonder if that puts people off who don't understand how that happens.<br /><br />RE: Telling. I'm mixed on this. I've told very few people. And every time I do tell someone, I regret that I did it for several days--then I forget about it. :} <br /><br />I don't ever want to be in the position of censoring what I write because of who may be reading it. Journal type blogs are really only beneficial, I think, if you don't write for your audience but, rather, to express yourself. People benefit from peaks into your struggles and victories, not from your press.<br /><br />The fact is, tho, that I'd say to real life people most everything I write if the timing and situation were appropriate. I think something about putting things in print and not having control over that timing or the ability to respond to the reader when it's someone I know, feels vulnerable. I think my issue is control rather than privacy--you may be less nuts than I am. :}<br /><br />Re: numbers. Blogger is completely unrerliable as far as numbers go. Sometimes it also messes up the number of comments. don't know why.<br /><br />I love your blog, by the way. :D Thanks for your kind comments on my own.<br /><br />DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-91652527737780748462010-07-25T20:14:23.377-04:002010-07-25T20:14:23.377-04:00Hey there.
1. Yes, I have more followers on my d...Hey there.<br /><br />1. Yes, I have more followers on my dashboard than show in my blog followers list. They are anonymous, maybe that makes a difference.<br /><br />2. I've told a few friends and family about my blog. In blogging and on FaceBook, I try to keep in mind that they are public fora. My mom always advised us never to write something for public consumption that you wouldn't mind reading on the front page of the Washington Post. I don't especially want my weight shouted from the front page of the Post, but I write my blog to help myself and I think making this "public" goal is helping me stick to it and live it.<br /><br />I don't really understand about other ways to read blogs. I do know that I don't want to get your blogs via email--I like the homepage setting with pix and side bars. I have a blog roll and I check it every day to see what you all have written that I haven't read yet. That works for me.Tishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039903741028922963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-34116605515891378462010-07-25T18:25:40.419-04:002010-07-25T18:25:40.419-04:001. I don't know.
2. I initially told a few p...1. I don't know.<br />2. I initially told a few people when I started my blog. I was very selective about who I told. Quite a few are followers although I'm not really sure how much they read. I edit myself some as to what I say because of them now. I feel a kindred spirit much more so with the blog community. I'd much rather have that. If I had to do it over again, I would not have told my friends.<br />3. When I follow a blog, it shows up on my dashboard. I read it from there.<br /><br />LoriLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348740719854853661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-17066140109871353162010-07-25T18:08:43.561-04:002010-07-25T18:08:43.561-04:00Hi: I also have a discrepancy in number of Follow...Hi: I also have a discrepancy in number of Followers shown on dashboard vs faces on my blog...on my RV blog not on my weight management blog. I don't know how to reconcile that either.<br /><br />I've told people about starting my RV blog and have had no issues with that. There is a link to my weight blog, so whoever reads one will find out about the other and can then read both. So far, I have no regrets on that. <br /><br />I read blog posts by checking my dashboard or looking at my blog list on the sidebar. I don't subscribe to any and I don't have a clue about Google reader. (techie...I'm NOT)<br /><br />Margie M. writes at:<br />www.myhealthylivingthruweightcontrol.blogspot.comMargie M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10310100815284895284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-88550173494275663212010-07-25T17:48:35.746-04:002010-07-25T17:48:35.746-04:00I have not advertised my blog to people that I kno...I have not advertised my blog to people that I know because they can be part of the stress in my life! I want to reserve the right to rant about them, if necessary. LOL, but not always....<br /><br />I use the Dashboard to keep up with reading. I'm probably at my "following" limit right now. I would enjoy going out and finding more followers (which means following their blogs, too), but I simply don't have the time. Wish I did!Genie @ Diet of 51https://www.blogger.com/profile/12666514999795984295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-12450146847506620182010-07-25T16:53:29.418-04:002010-07-25T16:53:29.418-04:00This is my first time visiting your blog and I wil...This is my first time visiting your blog and I will become a follower because I think we have a lot in common. The first thing is that we are in the same "age group."<br /><br />Answer to #2- I have been blogging since April and I decided at first I would tell no one. This is very personal for me and I have an insane fear of failure. I live in a small town and do not want to be discussed at dinner or church. After almost 4 months in Blogville, I still do not plan to tell anyone.<br /><br />#3-I get them through the Dashboard and it works just fine for me.<br /><br />Now I'm off to comment on your other post about losing weight while young.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15799781800542758688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-58647460194963950172010-07-25T16:09:45.568-04:002010-07-25T16:09:45.568-04:002 - I have told 4 people (for different reasons) a...2 - I have told 4 people (for different reasons) and honestly wish none of them knew. I definitely feel it restricts me sometimes in what I say. If I had it to do over, I would rather they did not know, or at least that they did not read. <br /><br />3 - I subscribe, that way I never have to check back to see if there is a new post. I prefer to us an rss feed and I use google reader since I had an igoogle page already with a calendar that I looked at daily. A few have no rss so I subscribe via email. <br /><br />P.S. I don't really understand google friends and how that works. I have signed up on many blogs and have it on mine but don't do anything with it. Maybe I am also missing something.Karen@WaistingTimehttp://www.waistingtimeblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-41784827886091066872010-07-25T15:55:02.120-04:002010-07-25T15:55:02.120-04:00I read most blogs on my dashboard....others via em...I read most blogs on my dashboard....others via email.<br /><br />I had a blog before the one I have now and shut it down because I told too many people in my "real" life about it. It just became a problem and I felt judged for what I was writing. I set up the new blog, have told no one but the hubby and feel like it gives me more freedom.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-67939900635153617212010-07-25T15:48:28.367-04:002010-07-25T15:48:28.367-04:002 - I let some people know; not all people care, I...2 - I let some people know; not all people care, I figure and I only tell the ones I think will be interested<br /><br />3- I read in Google reader.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00149397754795871378noreply@blogger.com