tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post4285324118796148744..comments2024-01-15T03:46:36.783-05:00Comments on Gains And Losses: Life Through Sharon's Eyes: Help, I'm A Control Freak!Sharonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09408463925646609263noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-20038311695915303672010-08-08T21:33:13.859-04:002010-08-08T21:33:13.859-04:00It's habits You have to change your habits by ...It's habits You have to change your habits by retraining your brain. Stop the old habits and do the new ones. Not easy but nothing else works, sorry.Dr. Jhttp://bit.ly/bfy8knnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-2067977595612131962010-08-04T00:33:51.055-04:002010-08-04T00:33:51.055-04:00Hey Sharon, I am a control freak also. That is an...Hey Sharon, I am a control freak also. That is an interesting theory--I'll have to think a little more about it. Also liked Tish's theory that your body wanted healthy food even though you were not hungry. Sometimes I eat healthy food like that as a 'signal' to my body that the time of junk food eating is over. <br /><br />But there is another theory floating around out there. And I think it has a lot of merit. It is the addictive qualities of the fat/salt/sugar combo. This is the main book written about it http://www.amazon.com/End-Overeating-Insatiable-American-Appetite/dp/1605297852/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280896232&sr=8-1 But this author is not the only one who subscribes to this theory.debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967505760808535408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-74251706946703055872010-08-03T18:05:42.438-04:002010-08-03T18:05:42.438-04:00I am definitely in the same boat, girl! I want to...I am definitely in the same boat, girl! I want to be a 'normal' eater, and I am a huge control freak.Add to that my all or nothing perfectionistic brain, and you get a perfect storm. I'm watching the comments for the words of wisdom I need.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348740719854853661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-37373970195479955852010-08-03T14:10:53.216-04:002010-08-03T14:10:53.216-04:00Maybe also your body wanted good, healthy food eve...Maybe also your body wanted good, healthy food even though you'd eaten your fill of the other stuff. I, too, though, hate not being in control. That's the hardest thing about big family get-togethers. I'm most comfortable having them at our house because I can exert some control over the menu <br /><br />The money thing? If your mom is the age of my parents, she probably grew up through part of the depression. My mom (b. 1920) was a compulsive saver (once my daughter needed 100 popsicle sticks at the last minute for a school project. My mom had them--saved, one by one, from popsicles over the years). Margarine tubs, rubber bands, twisty ties from bread containers--you name it, she saved it. My FIL is the same way. He still almost grimaces if anyone near him has to part with what he thinks is an unnecessary dollar. He buys Costco size containers of cheap food--those orange peanutbutter crackers, poptarts, and strawberry jam. Staples in his kitchen. I didn't notice food issues with my mom, but I can sure see the effect in my FIL.Tishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039903741028922963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-17974378158512860132010-08-03T11:14:16.771-04:002010-08-03T11:14:16.771-04:00I've done that too, Sharon.
It isn't abo...I've done that too, Sharon. <br /><br />It isn't about perfection (for me) but more about a trigger to old habits. <br /><br />You haven't been eating fried and greasy foods - but you used to. <br /><br />You simply had some, and the old habits were triggered. <br /><br />It takes a while (time) removed from it, to regain composure. Thus, you snacked (though thoughtfully) when you weren't hungry afterwards. An old habit too? <br /><br />But, after a night's sleep (time), you were able to snap back. <br /><br />I would suggest, therefore, to avoid things that act as triggers for you, or put some distance (time) between you and the unhealthy stuff, and you'll do better. <br /><br /><br />One not-so-great afternoon won't derail you. Who knows, the higher calorie day may have confused the body enough to actually give it a fat-burning boost. Only time will tell. I wouldn't beat yourself up over it. <br /><br />BUT, sometime in the next few months, tell your MIL about your "new" favorite recipe - share it with her - and talk about it every month between now and next summer. She'll want to make what you love, so you have to give her a new food you love. Lay the groundwork when you get far enough away from last weekend's celebration though, so she doesn't feel you are commenting on her birthday brunch efforts.<br /><br />You are NOT alone. I avoid cheese right now - I mean like the plague - because I know that is a trigger for my old habits. What can I say? So, for right now, I treat it like a stalker - keeping it at a great distance from me. <br /><br />Stalker Cheese ... hahaha ... there's a picture!Ann (-50 lbs in -60 lb challenge)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17156265221593608891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-71450145602672955742010-08-03T10:03:06.445-04:002010-08-03T10:03:06.445-04:00Well, I have no words of wisdom, that's for su...Well, I have no words of wisdom, that's for surer, but I DO relate!<br /><br />Like Karen's comment, when I have an event coming up that produces anticapatory anxiety, I start going off plan even BEFORE the event. How silly! I freak over losing control at the event--so lose it in advance.<br /><br />For me anxiety always produces that restless need to feed. Always. Even after the event is over--I then eat in relief that it's over. Of course, that is also often fueled by the gluten I had at the event....<br /><br />All I can say is, "Hang in there! We shall be FREE!"<br /><br />DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-66990031641174718152010-08-03T09:03:42.854-04:002010-08-03T09:03:42.854-04:00I complete relate, since I'm a control freak/p...I complete relate, since I'm a control freak/perfectionist. That is truly why I'm doing what I'm doing right now with my eating. Unfortuntately we can't control every food situation that we will be in. That is reality. I'm tired of feeling helpless and defeated and that is one reason why I have made all foods ok in moderation. If I don't I will continue to overeat and feel bad about myself when I eat them. Today is day 9 for me of doing this and I feel a little better about it everyday. I know I have a long long road ahead though.<br /><br />It's totally a mind issue for me...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-18057467913785655792010-08-03T08:31:00.407-04:002010-08-03T08:31:00.407-04:00I get this! You said it so well. I have noticed ...I get this! You said it so well. I have noticed something similar about myself. If I have a situation coming up that I can't control food-wise, I often start going off plan days in advance in anticipation and frustration! My other thought when I read about your meals, for myself, if I eat crappy food, I almost always keep eating later. Now some would say there is science behind this and it is the sugar,salt and fat in the food that really does something to our body and triggers the subsequent eating. Maybe. Or maybe it is the emotional component. <br /><br />Whatever - I totally see myself in your first paragraph. I want my days to be about more than eating or not eating or planning eating. Sigh.Karen@WaistingTimehttp://www.waistingtimeblog.comnoreply@blogger.com