tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post4456517558000477862..comments2024-01-15T03:46:36.783-05:00Comments on Gains And Losses: Life Through Sharon's Eyes: I'm Quirky - Will You Like Me Anyway?Sharonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09408463925646609263noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-77579830314095864022010-09-13T10:29:17.094-04:002010-09-13T10:29:17.094-04:00hahaha, I love it! Great writing!
Now what about ...hahaha, I love it! Great writing!<br />Now what about internal & external clausterphobia??? hmmm.<br />DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-43225552781305759062010-09-12T04:51:36.043-04:002010-09-12T04:51:36.043-04:00Years ago my hubby and I were "trained" ...Years ago my hubby and I were "trained" to be in Amway sales. They tried to teach us how to do the "chit chat". I hated it!!! My hubby is extrovert, and took to it like a duck to water. But I found it sooo uncomfortable. And phony. And a waste of time. I guess I have a few of those quirky traits, too. :-)<br /><br />It seems a common feeling that many of us seem to worry that if people knew the "real" us, they wouldn't like us. I don't what the answer is to that, other than just be ourselves in the first place, and people can take us or leave us! LOL!<br /><br />I'm working on that, too. Embracing my inner weirdness here, too!<br /><br />I loved this post, Sharon. I agree with you, that recognizing it and owning it is needed in order to heal it.<br /> <br />Loretta<br />=^..^=Rettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10034267067410245582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-57968813617048922762010-09-11T22:15:14.836-04:002010-09-11T22:15:14.836-04:00You have an award!
http://foodmydrugofchoice.blogs...You have an award!<br />http://foodmydrugofchoice.blogspot.com/2010/09/blog-award-but-beyonce-has-best-video.htmlFood Addicthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10243506634350995673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-75329978340150795892010-09-11T17:42:25.330-04:002010-09-11T17:42:25.330-04:00Ha Sharon! I commented on yesterdays post before ...Ha Sharon! I commented on yesterdays post before I read today's and I was wondering if I was making any sense. So my comments about turning down food invitations etc are right in line with how you are thinking. Hope it helps to know that someone else has traveled the same road.<br /><br />And I dislike chit chat to the extreme! Not that I particularly want to talk about slobbering dogs...(JK!)debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967505760808535408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-2271573049139532362010-09-11T13:13:05.522-04:002010-09-11T13:13:05.522-04:00:D I love you, Sharon. :D
Again, I could have w...:D I love you, Sharon. :D <br /><br />Again, I could have written much of this post. Especially your list of oddities. :)<br /><br />It's funny--maybe not. Anyway, since I'm a counselor, people who don't know me are always surprised to discover that I am not a "people person". <br /><br />They decide that I'm not when they realize that I despise social events. To many, that is a curious trait for a counselor.<br /><br />But, the reason I'm a good counselor is the other things on your list. I am great 1-on-1. I am great at getting deep quickly. Which is not only a good thing for a counselor, it is a good thing since I am horrible with small talk.<br /><br />Left to my own devices in group or small talk required situations, I am just silent. If that makes others uncomfortable, I say things that I know will get them to talking and I can return to invisibility.<br /><br />I am certain that my eating issues related to social events are more from my own discomfort with the event, than with the food/eating issues.<br /><br />You know what, Sharon? I've been thinking this--and moving on it a little--for a while now, but your recent posts have really driven it home--<br /><br />God made us this way for a reason. I have spent so many years trying to "work on" my personality flaws. To work on my social avoidance. Well, you know what? I think we should embrace it. <br /><br />The "I don't fit so I must be wrong" attitude, makes us doubt ourselves--our instincts. And that can cripple us. And make us angry when we realize that we were right and ignored ourselves. It also makes me hide out in food and fat.<br /><br />A while ago, I commented on a post something to the effect that I was going to embrace my inner <br />weirdness. :) You are giving me permission to do that--whether you meant to or not. I'm offerring that to you, too. :D<br /><br />My grandmother--who was an extrovert--used to say to my mother--who was an extrovert--when my mother was complaining about my lack of social flamboyance (She didn't know I could hear--but they talked so loudly!) that "Still waters run deep."<br /><br />God is okay with that. I'm pretty sure He likes "deep".<br /><br />DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-53487008222647957872010-09-11T11:37:54.006-04:002010-09-11T11:37:54.006-04:00Sharon,
I still like you. This is another commona...Sharon,<br />I still like you. This is another commonality we have. I always go overboard trying to be the person I think people will like and not always myself. Sometimes, I'm a little surprised when people say they like me if I haven't done something 'special' for them, as if I have to earn their friendship somehow. Then, if I actually show my true colors, I'm fearful that I've lost my friends. <br /><br />I don't know where this comes from. I certainly did not have to earn affection in my family of origin. J-boy has never behaved that way. It is something I must confront and heal. That's another thing we can do together.<br />LoriLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348740719854853661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-78164713528971378002010-09-11T10:07:53.644-04:002010-09-11T10:07:53.644-04:00P.S. Yes, of course, "like you" more bec...P.S. Yes, of course, "like you" more because, not in spite!Genie @ Diet of 51https://www.blogger.com/profile/12666514999795984295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-71902446310597861462010-09-11T10:06:15.426-04:002010-09-11T10:06:15.426-04:00Hi Sharon,
I read both of these posts, and they a...Hi Sharon,<br /><br />I read both of these posts, and they are jam-packed full of highly important--and relatable--info. <br /><br />You and I have many of the same quirks that you listed! Me, too, terrible at chit-chat! Have to remember that "depth" scares most people so I try to fake it to fit in. Not crazy about restaurant eating either. Not worth the money to me when I have to work so hard for it.<br /><br />I know what a CTJ is. Tried it with my husband numerous times, but forget it. The glazed expression always wins. Good luck with yours!Genie @ Diet of 51https://www.blogger.com/profile/12666514999795984295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-2097031588250043552010-09-11T09:42:45.290-04:002010-09-11T09:42:45.290-04:00Sharon, I trust things are going well and that Mr....Sharon, I trust things are going well and that Mr. B survived The CTJ Talk! In answer to your question on my post: 1.6 hours by car or 6.3 hours by bike (have you used the cool feature on google maps that lets you find the best bike route between two places?) Let's do it. Soon.Tishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039903741028922963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-18207163199086533792010-09-11T08:59:14.162-04:002010-09-11T08:59:14.162-04:00You and I are quite similiar in a lot of ways...
...You and I are quite similiar in a lot of ways...<br /><br />Yep...I know exactly what a "come to Jesus" talk is....I use that good ol' southern saying too :)<br /><br />Searching for the why in our behaviors is the only way for lasting change to occur.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com