tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post8528048099427955639..comments2024-01-15T03:46:36.783-05:00Comments on Gains And Losses: Life Through Sharon's Eyes: Some Time AwaySharonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09408463925646609263noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-53292329402573073292015-08-16T15:56:53.572-04:002015-08-16T15:56:53.572-04:00I know. Good gracious, I know and wish with all m...I know. Good gracious, I know and wish with all my heart that I didn't. I've had friends completely walk away because it makes them feel easier. Okay, folks. Have a nice rest of your life and don't expect me to be around when your spouse dies. What we are going through is hard, hard work. As widows, we keep trying to find a pause, rewind, of fast-forward button for our brains. And the simplest little things can trigger a downward slide into cold grief. I experience wild swings within a 24 hour period, no sweat. It is so unpredictable. Life as we knew it has disappeared, and we have to start over. And you are so right about listening. People can help a widow or widower best by simply listening.<br /><br />I would encourage you to force yourself to do more trips. Yes, they will be hard. I was in a Nashville motel a couple of weeks ago, wondering why in the world I was there. The answer was because I needed to be, and there were some moments of grace between the heartaches. As you know, I am doing multiple trips this year, some long distance. I am already starting to plan 2016 trips, including an international one. I don't want to travel alone. But that's the only way I am going to be able to travel. So I have to either suck it up or else stare at four walls for the rest of my days. And God is urging me to get "out there."<br /><br />It is your life now. Your time on earth is not over. And you will find a new purpose for the time that remains for you. God bless you, sweetie.Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05347598432040432610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-83779660050902528942015-08-02T09:38:32.474-04:002015-08-02T09:38:32.474-04:00Sharon, you are a writer and this just reminded me...Sharon, you are a writer and this just reminded me of something that helped me tremendously. I wrote to my husband every day. I told him little accomplishments I had made without him. I told him my feelings, my fears, how much I still loved him and missed him. I asked him questions. I did this for a year. Then I did it less often, but always on our special occasions.<br /><br />I hope you're keeping some kind of journal. Going back and reading it helps me understand some feelings. And helps me remember some things I have already forgotten.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15799781800542758688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-78039987319605437372015-07-28T16:26:32.843-04:002015-07-28T16:26:32.843-04:00I am so sorry for your loss - you put it perfectly...I am so sorry for your loss - you put it perfectly. One day I am fine going about my business, and the next minute something will trigger my grief and all I want to do is cry for days on end. My husband passed away last December, and it's been the most difficult thing I've ever gone through - you are right, nothing feels the same. It just sucks.<br /><br />http://www.mybizzykitchen.com/2014/12/22/going-from-us-and-we-to-i-and-me/<br />Bizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08783112702666715422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-5709974903579804632015-07-28T08:03:48.436-04:002015-07-28T08:03:48.436-04:00This is beautiful Sharon and so raw and real. I a...This is beautiful Sharon and so raw and real. I admire you for being able to put words to this agonizing experience. You are always in my heart. I just can't imagine it even as I know my turn is just around the corner.Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00328866430156879312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-53339925363845150222015-07-27T21:25:56.444-04:002015-07-27T21:25:56.444-04:00I understand everything you said. You struggle on...I understand everything you said. You struggle on, alternating between ok and suffering beyond comprehension, but never actually happy. How can we ever be happy again? I don't know, even though we have two other children, a grandson, and a grand-daughter on the way. But you're right, listening, or just being there helps a lot. Thinking of you.The Furry Gnomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02485265576983125216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-66296885194174900902015-07-27T16:26:07.224-04:002015-07-27T16:26:07.224-04:00My heart hurts for you. I am sorry that you are h...My heart hurts for you. I am sorry that you are having to live through this time. You will make it. <br />LoriLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348740719854853661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-33227774878224203162015-07-27T11:23:09.973-04:002015-07-27T11:23:09.973-04:00I LOVE that waterfall! It reminds me of Burney Fal...I LOVE that waterfall! It reminds me of Burney Falls in Oregon, which reminds me that I would like to visit there again sometime. <br /><br />I read "A Grief Observed" by C.S. Lewis, after the spouse of a good friend died, and his grief was just overwhelming. It helped me to understand grief in others and myself a little bit more. I'm glad you are sharing.debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967505760808535408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-54016549640323350692015-07-27T10:54:47.557-04:002015-07-27T10:54:47.557-04:00Boy, did this blog bring back the emotions. Keep ...Boy, did this blog bring back the emotions. Keep on keeping on and it will be less raw and easier to bear.kristine barrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16478432437077665125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-53811501264698253322015-07-27T10:42:17.515-04:002015-07-27T10:42:17.515-04:00Know that all your blog friends are with you, send...Know that all your blog friends are with you, sending healing thoughts.Linda W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00805197763483105000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-78383603602279211902015-07-27T09:41:23.495-04:002015-07-27T09:41:23.495-04:00Love you, just like everyone else does. Love you, just like everyone else does. Pam https://www.blogger.com/profile/05979446142128610261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-42810805612978128762015-07-27T08:46:19.004-04:002015-07-27T08:46:19.004-04:00{{{hugs}}} I thought of you a few days ago when I...{{{hugs}}} I thought of you a few days ago when I read something attributed to Anne Lamott: "[Grieving] is like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” Keep dancing and learning, Sharon.Cammy@TippyToeDiethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00547787031318303521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-63970010265980143292015-07-27T08:34:59.286-04:002015-07-27T08:34:59.286-04:00I grew up in SC and somehow have always missed thi...I grew up in SC and somehow have always missed this when we headed north. I'll have to check it out. You're not losing your mind; You're coping. Keeping you in my thoughts. MandaPandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03362923550051566309noreply@blogger.com