tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post9166548238526227315..comments2024-01-15T03:46:36.783-05:00Comments on Gains And Losses: Life Through Sharon's Eyes: I'm Drawing A Blank TodaySharonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09408463925646609263noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-59747879055027297792010-08-09T12:00:40.943-04:002010-08-09T12:00:40.943-04:00Hi Sharon,
I looked after my mom for 15 years. It ...Hi Sharon,<br />I looked after my mom for 15 years. It IS hard at tines. For me, I was blessed that my beloved spouse was always supportive and helpful. She passed last year.<br /><br />My parents divorced years ago. Now I am caring for my father who is in hospice. It is hard being the only sibling "present", but I knew it would go that way when we moved my father here 4 years ago. I feel though that this is one way I return to my parents my gift of life. My parents did their best with all of<br />of us, but things were tough. I am very grateful for my life, despite any of my past, so that is the mind set I have as I care(Ed) for them.<br />Yourb logging friend, Michele <br /><br />Give your self plenty of time to care for yourself. It is so j<br />portant that you FIRST care for your selve and then look after aging patents or in laws.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16422138891797605472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-23427603191871210582010-08-09T08:15:51.741-04:002010-08-09T08:15:51.741-04:00I'm sorry to hear about the family troubles - ...I'm sorry to hear about the family troubles - it's always so hard for everyone, and as your post & the comments indicate, such a mix of emotions. In addition to the stress and sadness of the situation itself (his health) there is additional stress & difficulty by the disruption to your own life (vacation et al). <br /><br />I love that flower picture - is it a wild iris (do those exist?) or a cultivated one?Sarah@LowStressWeightLosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04516055228558206118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-42097194697172083342010-08-08T23:53:54.005-04:002010-08-08T23:53:54.005-04:00I understand exactly the difference you're not...I understand exactly the difference you're noting between cravings and munchies. I call the munchies "that restless need to feed."<br /><br />It is annoying and hard to resist, that's true, but soooo different from the overwhelming cravings that I had before going off of gluten. There's just no comparison.<br /><br />With the munchies, I, like you, could actually gather enough cognition and awareness to determine the source--or at least the emotion behind it. so different from frantic food fixation.. <br /><br />Great work on finding a way to resist! I've often fled upstairs to my computer myself when I started to prowl the kitchen. <br /><br />You, your husband, and your in-laws are in my prayers. So hard. So many feelings.<br /><br />DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-18568326719418338302010-08-08T22:59:44.172-04:002010-08-08T22:59:44.172-04:00I would feel disappointed about the trip, then fee...I would feel disappointed about the trip, then feel guilty about feeling disappointed. But my thinking is that the blog is where you can say that stuff. Then you can go put on your supportive face with the family. We are here to listen:)Karen@WaistingTimehttp://www.waistingtimeblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-69551563333134193532010-08-08T22:28:37.554-04:002010-08-08T22:28:37.554-04:00It sounds like you actually had a lot of great thi...It sounds like you actually had a lot of great things to talk about. Great post as always!Diane Fit to the Finishhttp://www.fittothefinish.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-85332021061580640472010-08-08T21:34:46.137-04:002010-08-08T21:34:46.137-04:00Hi! thanks so much for coming by my blog today!
I...Hi! thanks so much for coming by my blog today!<br /><br />I look forward to following you. <br /><br />I love all of your pictures!!!!Julie Lost and Foundhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13802639896769099527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-39376542960206530482010-08-08T21:28:38.747-04:002010-08-08T21:28:38.747-04:00My Dad was fine, lived by himself, drove, did ever...My Dad was fine, lived by himself, drove, did everybody's taxes, volunteered, and was a real asset to the community until he was 91. He had a devastating stroke 20 months and lost his memory. He has severe dementia now, and needs 24 hour private duty care even in his Alzheimer's/Dementia nursing home. He will forget that he can't just hop out of bed and go somewhere without his walker and needs someone there with him all the time to remind him. I'm the only kid who lives nearby and take care of his finances, the visits, hiring caregivers, etc. My Dad was wonderful to us all those years and I'm glad to be able to give back some. It is sad to see him confused and frustrated. I had never heard him swear, but now, when he's in pain he swears and says things that I wouldn't believe he'd ever say. He still responds well to babies (the great grands)--smiles and waves at them, and always greets our Jay nicely. I reached my lowest weight the day my father had his stroke. With the worry and anxiety and stress of arranging for his care, and hoping for recovery and eventually clearing out his house, I gained 40 pounds over that next year. I hadn't learned how to keep my new eating style in place. I've learned some things since then. I've added more exercise and feel stronger now. Nothing has really changed with my level of responsibility toward my Dad over the past 20 months, but I think I've learned some things. During the many crises (falls, hospitalizations, setbacks, times when he loses weight because he doesn't eat) I am tempted to give in to Mr. Munch, but I fight it. I can't control so much of what is happening, but my food intake and my exercise are generally things I CAN control. Too long for a comment, but you have my prayers for your FIL and family and my best wishes for you in your commitment to yourself and your responsibilities to your family. HUGSTishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039903741028922963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6990977257817044347.post-4033184696932198412010-08-08T20:43:38.278-04:002010-08-08T20:43:38.278-04:00We took care of 3 of our parents through illness a...We took care of 3 of our parents through illness and eventually their passing. None of the 3 had memory issues, however. It is difficult in that, like children, you must put their needs ahead of your own. This includes your dreams for your future years as well, for the time being. You and Mr. B will be strength for one another. When one of you gets down, the other can help pick you back up and vice versa. It worked for Bruce and I as my Mom's decline with terminal cancer got so difficult. Team work is critical. Even if FIL doesn't seem to recognize you, he does recognize the fact that some sweet angel is helping him and caring for him at his time of need. <br /><br />I could go on and on, but this is wordy enough!<br />Hang in there.Margie M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10310100815284895284noreply@blogger.com