Monday, September 30, 2013
Playing The Waiting Game!
Morning View from Uncle Pete's Cabin at Rockhaven Farms
Mt. Juliet, Tennessee - September 22, 2013
NO ONE ENJOYS WAITING, BUT THERE IS VALUE IN THE PROCESS.....
Thanks so much from both of us to those who have written asking about Bill's health. I am not surprised at the outpouring of support from the blog community, but Bill's surprise and appreciation has been fun to observe as he is not quite as deeply involved in this community as I have been for the past 3 1/2 years and he still is amazed at the bonds developed among people who have never even met in person. I don't intend to devote this entire post to an update, but here is what we know at this point. Basically, nothing! The swelling in his neck has begun to decrease and doctors still believe that it is complications from coughing and that the laryngitis is a result of the swelling pressing on his right vocal chord. We are assured that this is treatable and fixable. But the question remains that the whole issue is very, VERY odd and they want to be absolutely certain that nothing else is going on in there. He has had several tests, a CT Scan and is facing more testing this week since the results of the original tests were "inconclusive." (Don't you just love that word?) Thus, more waiting and more time without his voice. Again, doctor assures us that attempting to use his voice as much as he can will NOT hurt and might possibly even be helpful. But his voice is very hoarse and raspy with little volume and sometimes attempting to use it brings on more coughing, so he mostly whispers. His incredible patience and grace throughout this ordeal is such an inspiration to me. We've both had a couple of complete meltdowns, but sadly, it's more often been HIM encouraging me rather than the other way around.
But there is so much value to be found in the process of waiting and I often wonder if that isn't one of main reasons these periods of adversity come our way. Bill's kids at school have been so caring, patient and concerned. The faculty and staff have been amazing. As for me, I think I can safely say you'll never hear me complain again about Bill talking to much or dominating conversations. Those of you who've met us, know that he is a total extrovert who simply loves people, loves a group and loves TO TALK! Some of our most intense
conversations arguments over the past 36 1/2 years have been my saying something to the effect of, "wouldn't it have been nice if someone else could've had a chance to say something?" Right now, I don't care if anyone else ever has a chance to say something - I just want to hear HIS voice. So for me, there has been value in reminding myself to take nothing for granted and appreciate every moment to the very fullest.
IN THE MEANTIME............
Last weekend, we had to be in Nashville for Bill to attend a required meeting relating to his annual Travel Abroad program. Long before he became ill, we had made reservations for the weekend in our favorite cabin, Uncle Pete's, at Rockhaven Farms in nearby Mt. Juliet. Today's picture is an early morning view from the large picture window in Uncle Pete's and I've written many times before about what a haven this place has become for us. While Bill attended his meeting in Nashville, my sister (who lives nearby) came over to the cabin for some sister time. Our intent was some walking at the wonderful Long Hunter State Park which is just a few miles away, but mother nature had other ideas. It had rained all night and the rain continued to pour, so we spent the entire time sitting on Uncle Pete's front porch...................
September 21, 2013
..............enjoying the longest uninterrupted sister time I can ever remember since we've been adults. It was glorious! Between our parents (who live close to me) and her two daughters (who love their Aunt Sharon and Uncle Bill), suffice it to say, spending time just the two of us has been next to impossible. We vowed to try and make it happen more often.
This past weekend, Bill has felt better and his coughing seems to be improving, so we've enjoyed a couple of almost "normal" days. Saturday found us dining al fresco at Mimi's Cafe for a decadent breakfast (on his part, I had my usual oatmeal) and to the hospital to visit a friend. Both of these events are significant in that it has been weeks since we would have considered either because of Bill's constant coughing. Following that, we visited a nearby nursery for more fall flowers and to Trader Joe's for some dinner fixings! It was a wonderful Saturday!
Sunday was spent quietly watching our church service broadcast and enjoying pizza with friends who we knew wouldn't mind an occasional bout of coughing. Thankfully, these are becoming much, MUCH less frequent. These are special friends who despite being on vacation all week last week, called or texted every single day to check on Bill.
Before I close out this incredibly long (too long) post, please let me ask once again for your patience in neglecting YOU during this ordeal. I've blogged long enough now that my long time blog friends know my routine and know that during hectic times, I tend to read blogs quickly just to keep up and not comment as often or as thoroughly. But lately, I've picked up a few new "followers" (I prefer to call you friends) that I haven't even acknowledged and must confess I haven't even been around to visit YOUR blogs. This is not my usual style and I promise to catch up as soon as I can. I thank you so much for reading and making the commitment to read often by becoming a follower. I do appreciate it and will visit you soon.
It would encourage me if you'd share a time you found value in a period of waiting!