Monday, March 19, 2012
Be Careful Who Your Friends Are
This new bench miraculously appeared over the winter along one of my favorite walking trails.
I'll be spending lots of time here!
March 14, 2012
When I was growing up, one of my mother's famous lines was, "be careful who your friends are." Of course, at that point in time, I would just roll my eyes back in my head and think, "what does she know?," but as I grew older, it turns out she was right! Last Monday, my friend, Diane, who blogs at Fit To The Finish, wrote an excellent post entitled, Is Weight Loss Contagious? It reminded me of an article I had
stolen borrowed from my doctor's office after one of those many visits last year that I intended to write about, but never did. Had to dig awhile, but finally found it!
Borrowing from Diane's thoughts and turning them around, I'm asking,"Is Weight GAIN contagious"? The article I read was from WebMD Magazine, September, 2011 and was entitled "Big Problem - The Surprising Link Between Women's Thoughts About Obesity and The Size Of America." (I have tried to find a link to this article, but can't.) I could write about six posts based on the specific MISCEPTIONS women have about the influence our personal weight and diet patterns have on others, but one in particular jumped out at me. According to this survey of 1,037 women, less than 1/3 of them UNDERSTOOD that they were 57% more likely to become obese if their friend/friends were obese, 40% if their sibling was, and 37% if their spouse was. So it seems my mom was right. If I choose to hang around with people who are obese, have a sibling who is or a spouse who is, it's likely to have an impact on me.
Now PLEASE don't fire off comments berating me for speaking negatively or unkindly about the problem of obesity. I want to think that the two concepts of weight loss being contagious and weight gain being contagious might work together in the name of love and compassion for each other. But I do think this opened my eyes to the fact that I'm probably not immune, nor will I ever be, to the poor eating habits of obese friends and family if I make the choice to subject myself to their way of eating all the time. I have friends who fall into the category of obese and although things are going quite well for me right now, I can attest to the fact that their eating habits have been detrimental to my choices in times past when I wasn't feeling as strong as I am right now. In fact, early last fall, a few successive days of on-plan eating were derailed after one dinner out with a specific couple whom I have in mind. And the most important thing about this survey is this. It's not inevitable that YOUR weight loss pattern is going to be impacted by the patterns of your friends, siblings or spouse. It's that you must UNDERSTAND how often it happens and how easily it happens!
Shifting gears, I loved your comments from my last post. It's such fun to learn obscure things about each of you such as whether you have articles of clothing in more than one size. And I was thrilled to hear that some of you have also given in to the dreaded stretch waist bands especially those who are at maintenance and still don't have that 36-26-36 figure which I was just certain everyone did! LOL! Maybe we should start an exclusive club just for those who may wear size 8 slacks or skirt, but still gotta have some stretch in the waist to fit those hips!!
A couple of you also mentioned how lucky I am to have that "pear" shaped body type even with the difficulties it presents in buying clothes. And I want you to know that I TOTALLY understand that and NEVER take it for granted. A pear-shape is much less susceptible to heart disease and other risk factors. In all my complaining, I never lose sight of the fact that I'm glad I'm a pear!!
And lastly, I'd love to throw away all those larger sizes once I no longer need them. But here's the thing. Those specific jeans are quickly becoming a style that are no longer made. Once very popular, they are now made in only a couple of factories and finding them has become impossible. I suspect they'll soon no longer be made at all. So nope, can't discard them! However, once they are too big, rest assured they are washed, folded and stored in an airtight container DEEP in the bowels of our largest storage closet. I don't plan on ever wearing them again, but they were good purchases, I've taken care of them and I just don't think it wise to throw them away. But in my mind, they're gone!
It has gotten quite warm here and wildflowers are in full bloom. They are at least three weeks early and I've fought a bit of discouragement. Bears have been spotted in the park and even if I chose to which I probably wouldn't, I've got to respect Mr. B's request that I no longer hike solo once the bears have left their dens. They are hungry, pregnant or already with cubs and quite moody! So, much as I love hiking under any circumstances, I do miss the freedom of just taking off with or without a partner. The heat this early in March has created some wicked storms already and I'm just a wee bit leery of what we might be looking at for the rest of spring.
Eating is very balanced and the weight continues to come off. I tried two new recipes yesterday, Oatmeal Muffins (Oat Flour) and Spinach and Bacon Frittata, both of which were very good. I substituted my homemade applesauce for the brown sugar in the muffins. They are not very sweet at all (which I like), but would be delicious with a thin spread of just about anything. The frittata I made as written except that I did not sprinkle cheese at the end of baking as it suggests. We had it for lunch today and it was excellent.
Looking forward to a busy week full of activity..........hope you are!
What Do You Think??
Is Weight Loss Contagious? Is Weight Gain Contagious?
Tell Me About Your Real Life Friends, Siblings, Spouse
Are They A Good or Bad Influence?